THE F WORD✨ "FEMINISM"✨

Yesterday. I was watching  an old interview of Priyanka chopra where she said one statement that stayed with me .

        " When a women is aimbitious, she is considered as self centered" and the statement forced me to think over it ..so ...hey pen friends !...today I am going to write about 

            "The f word... FEMINISM"

          yes ! I Know it sounds like an  abusive word !

But that's not my fault just because everyone now a days is considering it in that way. there are so many missconceptions regarding this one single word "feminism"

   Whenever anything includes "fem" in it,  everyone raises thier ears to hear it and find out faults in the same ! 

     The questionable part is dancing , drinking , smoking ,wearing short dresses or dating five men at a time!! Are these the only things feminism includes or we know about ?

 of course not !

In several past years , feminism is considered as a hot topic to talk about. But before commenting on it we need to find actual meaning of feminism 

What is feminism ?

Giving equal opportunity to every individual to show their potential .

Then how does gender come in it ?

Just because of using "fem"??

From the start of the era , women get less opportunities to prove their selves. feminism is simply asking for opportunity without considaration of gender.

It's so obvious , that for this agenda we need support of men around us .

We need help of men who are indirectly or directly present in our life.

FEMINISM won't mean speeding hate about men .

Simple thinkable part is , why did we never use the term "menism" 

Why?

Because men never had to ask for an opportunity . they always had chances to show their potentials in their respective fields 

Let's take an example , 

Many times when married women went for interviews, they had to face questions like how will they manage?

Are you able to manage your kids and work at the same time?

And worst when they 

Sometimes ask about "those days of the month" using all this as an opportunity to throw women out of  the running of the job?

Are mood swings a proper reason to throw out someone from a place she deserves to be ?

But at the same time if married men give an interview, no one asks them "are you able to manage your job with your family ?"

Why so?

Now in such cases we need to be feminist.

If Asking for opportunity despite of my gender is that tough, We ask for equality . Not for more , not for less.

Then how is  it that , it has turned into a judgmental thing? 

The Answer is simple,  without getting proper knowledge showing off flags of feminism is totally wrong ...

And sadly the missconception of it starts from us women itself! 

There are many cases in which inspite of knowing the truth, men get punishment. without having any fault .

And that's what is called as playing the women card!

As men shouldn't forget they come from women's womb in similar manner, women should not forget that they also have support system of their father , brother and friends who are inclusive of malea.

    Not only women but also men go through sexual harrasment . At that time, instead of passing comments, we need to consider them as human beings.

Rather than declaring men as wrong person without knowing second side on coin is totally wrong .

You are right feminism talks about women's right 

But it won't mean 

Women's are always right.

There is huge difference between this two statements and we need to understand the difference .

After knowing all this facts about feminism . One question knocks at the door of our heart 

And that is 

What's the solution over all this?

Simple , 

If you are a woman then consider This One thing that we need to help other women to grow rather than back bitch about her dressing sense !

We need to equally treat men's emotions !

Do remember 

"Mard ko bhi dard hota hai bas shayad wo bayan nhi karta "

And in that case , rather than laughing or pasing shitty judgments 

We need to be their backsupport 

And 

If you are the men ,

You'll firstly consider this one thing 

It's not necessary that every women should love pink colour and that every female has no knowledge about games , technology and politics .

Accept this fact 

Many times this thing has happened to me .if a group of my male friends are having any discussion over gender difference or talking how things are easy if you are a girl, instantly just impulsively ,I look at them .. then they are always like

"Nikalo feminism ke zande" 

Right now i want to tell them , 

One ,

Having an opinion won't mean Im a feminist to the core.

I have voice , I have brain i know how to use both and trust me if I get chance I will use it very well

As like each and every day.

Two , 

Atleast let me speak !!!!!!!!

...let me represent my thoughts and then judge me if you have that Calibre of  knowledge to judge me!

I agree , history shows as said by pheobe and Rachel 

Queens are historically better without king 

And Juliet without Romeo is alive ! 

But similarly , 

History shows 

Without jotiba their is no savitri bai fule 

Without raja gangadhar rao  their is no rani lakshmibai

 

We need to accept one point .

"Every successful man has a successfull women behind him is history now 

Today's generation need to accept the fact that it's high time to take one feet forward and to celebrate success of each other 

 hand in hand" 

Offering a chair to sit for women is maybe the  old definition of gentleman but today  giving the chair of equal height to sit according to capability must be the new definition 

I think only then can Ambitious women being self centred be considered as a good thing.

Having aimbition will be the thing to be proud of 

Despite you are men or women .

Do you agree with me ?

Share your views on feminism in comment box .

Keep the possitivity flowing ...🌻